Don’t tell me no-one’s been there before? So, you do a mistake and you’re stuck in it and you don’t know how to get “unstuck” so, there may be panic or fear, anxiety or even insomnia…Some kind of insanity you go through?
The keys to a happier life without any regret is to trust in Allah, god, and also tie your camel- an old proverb actually to mean that yes you trust in God but you don’t just dive undersea. The dumbest person is he who thinks, “I trust in god, i really do…I believe!” and then decides to take a dive underwater in a quest for pearls or what have you…When in reality he is a bad-swimmer, has no experience whatsoever and becomes panic-stricken ever so easily. Such a person is not only fool but if one thinks to trust in Allah,sincerely then she must also tie the loose ends and take precaution. Some people today, try to be sincere with themselves and in belief but they completely lose sense of intelligence or “human brains”…One can easily mean well and want to do good but fall short due to being naiive. We must be wise, and remember that to avoid making mistakes is not possible.
Allah is always going to test us, the more He loves,, the more He will test you in accordance with the strength you have to take on the test- as we must remind ourselves that He gives no hardship more than we can bear. What I do is I move on after making a mistake, so you made a mistake in life and perhaps its the biggest mistake or regret you ever made. Why cry over spilt milk?
Escaping your regret is difficult, but then is also easy: repent to Allah (this is where you’re tying your camel, or doing your own part) and thereafter move on with it, walk off and don’t look back (at your regret or mistake). It sounds impossible, but believe me when i tell you- if you really cannot help crying over the past, mistakes and regrets and all- then at least remind yourself of it all when you are: very grateful, very remorseful or very happy before Allah. When you are happy, and you remember your past mistakes- you balance your happiness and get that healthy diet of such an emotion because an intensity or a fire of fuelled happiness in excess may be harmful or if not life-threatening because in life, there’ll always be something easy to let you down or disappoint you. We must prepare for best and for worse. Balancing our emotions! Feeling remoreful bfore Allah after feeling the pain of the past, or regretting! Thus we repent. What next? Move on with your life, remember to take life-lessons from the past. Take the good from it and leave the bad, and this is where your trust in Allah comes to place. You trust in Him that you will not ever repeat your past action, and that you will try to be hopeful. I trust Allah will give me something better/ will make it easy on me/take care of it all etc.
In all honesty, much of our current problems are due to our emotions and how we look at it. If we change our outlook in life, and of our problems or situations- if we look with a vision of hope, determination, positivity and if we remember Allah constantly…What negative is there left to feel? Or go through?
Allah and putting our trust in Him properly, in the right time and place, makes all the big difference in our lives 🙂