Living a happy life…Without any regret

Don’t tell me no-one’s been there before? So, you do a mistake and you’re stuck in it and you don’t know how to get “unstuck” so, there may be panic or fear, anxiety or even insomnia…Some kind of insanity you go through?

The keys to a happier life without any regret is to trust in Allah, god, and also tie your camel- an old proverb actually to mean that yes you trust in God but you don’t just dive undersea. The dumbest person is he who thinks, “I trust in god, i really do…I believe!” and then decides to take a dive underwater in a quest for pearls or what have you…When in reality he is a bad-swimmer, has no experience whatsoever and becomes panic-stricken ever so easily. Such a person is not only fool but if one thinks to trust in Allah,sincerely then she must also tie the loose ends and take precaution. Some people today, try to be sincere with themselves and in belief but they completely lose sense of intelligence or “human brains”…One can easily mean well and want to do good but fall short due to being naiive. We must be wise, and remember that to avoid making mistakes is not possible.

Allah is always going to test us, the more He loves,, the more He will test you in accordance with the strength you have to take on the test- as we must remind ourselves that He gives no hardship more than we can bear. What I do is I move on after making a mistake, so you made a mistake in life and perhaps its the biggest mistake or regret you ever made. Why cry over spilt milk?

Escaping your regret is difficult, but then is also easy: repent to Allah (this is where you’re tying your camel, or doing your own part) and thereafter move on with it, walk off and don’t look back (at your regret or mistake). It sounds impossible, but believe me when i tell you- if you really cannot help crying over the past, mistakes and regrets and all- then at least remind yourself of it all when you are: very grateful, very remorseful or very happy before Allah. When you are happy, and you remember your past mistakes- you balance your happiness and get that healthy diet of such an emotion because an intensity or a fire of fuelled happiness in excess may be harmful or if not life-threatening because in life, there’ll always be something easy to let you down or disappoint you. We must prepare for best and for worse. Balancing our emotions! Feeling remoreful bfore Allah after feeling the pain of the past, or regretting! Thus we repent. What next? Move on with your life, remember to take life-lessons from the past. Take the good from it and leave the bad, and this is where your trust in Allah comes to place. You trust in Him that you will not ever repeat your past action, and that you will try to be hopeful. I trust Allah will give me something better/ will make it easy on me/take care of it all etc.

In all honesty, much of our current problems are due to our emotions and how we look at it. If we change our outlook in life, and of our problems or situations- if we look with a vision of hope, determination, positivity and if we remember Allah constantly…What negative is there left to feel? Or go through?

Allah and putting our trust in Him properly, in the right time and place, makes all the big difference in our lives 🙂

When the going gets tough, what are you gonna do?

You are always at war within yourself…
Many people may not realize how much there is in them that fights off what prevents one from actually living, and living to the very fullest.

The fight within could be anxiety, or loneliness, fear, tension or grief- for everyone- there is a fear that keeps us alive and there is a fear that keeps us from living. The fear that keeps us alive, and that gives us the drive and the push or shove to do something or to do what it takes is: taqwa or fear in Allah. The fear of Allah keeps us alive because no human can live without a fear else such a being is careless, undaunted or unconcerned of anyone or anything- which may lead to arrogance or pride; a destructive emotion that overwhelms and overpowers the entire being from sanity and humility. Why we as Muslims prostrate ourselves before the King of kings, Allah? Why is it that we prostrate with our forehead and our nose? It is due to those parts of our face, that is the resemblance and symbol of pride and self-importance, or aloofness and superiority and why would Allah create us with our a nose on our face or a forehead high? If He so Willed, He could’ve fashioned us with a nose elsewhere…But this is impossible because Allah has created us in the best of moulds and designs and we as human-beings- WE are the preferred and the best of mankind, of creations. So, to humbly prostrate our dignity: the top-most of us are the nose and the forehead as it is held high up and not way down, for example near our feet, no. So, to humbly prostrate ourselves before Allah and press the ground with our nose and forehead in clear submission- we are humbling and degrading ourselves before Allah so we can be reminded at the same time of the importance it is to distinguish our position before Allah. We are not our own man as they would put it, we are not our own god but Allah is our Lord and King and we are His Servants. This is the exact reason why Iblis forgot himself completely as pride and arrogance consumed him, that when he were commanded to bow and prostrate before Allah the Creator- he clearly refused and even became distastefully envious of Adam, he did not want to humble himself before his Creator and the same Creator Who created Adam (AS). Why? Due to pride and arrogance, his self-importance destroyed him.

There is a war in every man and woman, a fight within to overcome the Iblis or the evil in ourselves. Loneliness is not evil, or grief or anxiety- it is part of human nature…But we need to feel ourselves close to nature and how do we come close to nature? How can we bond and ‘befriend’ nature? Nature is not our remedy here but Allah because Allah is revealed and is found through nature too. The answer is simple as to “how” He is so: when we prostrate to Allah in our five prayers or in duaa, we as close to the ground or earth as possible. There is no way you can get any “down-to-earth” as the prostration to Allah. This is also why we prostrate to NO-ONE other than Allah because we all know that Allah is greater than mankind and He is greater than humans or any other creature. Greater than the “king of the jungle: the lion”, and because of His Power and Majesty and His Greatness, we feel humbled during our prostration and we lower ourselves touching the ground: our knees, hands, nose and forehead and our toes. There is a wisdom why we prostrate with such specific joints of our body, there is a wisdom behind that and in many ways I cannot begin by explaining how so it is.

So, what do we do when the going gets tough or when there is a fight we’re having to put up with within? Prostrate yourself before Allah and just see what happens, as it is better than one-hundred times of practicing the yoga or “meditating”- as we are reminded that WE are servants to serve only Allah the Greatest, the Majestic who is more merciful to His servants than a mother is to her own child.

Part II will explain Inshaa’Allah what the fear is that keeps us from living, a fear most people possess and do not think to eliminate.