Do you believe in fairy-tales? Fairy-tales are FAKE

Just a thought that comes to mind: do you believe in fairy-tales? I’m going to get to the bottom of it all, I have just about had enough of the children building their future-plans or dream based on fairy-tales, such stories do not exist in reality.

I would have to admit though that I would say, I’d “like” to believe in fairies and tales that have much fantasy where a dragon can breathe fire and princesses live in castles etc but I’ve come to realise that in reality- can we really live in a fairy-tale- in this world?

Growing up, or should I say, when I was eight years old and growing up I loved the idea of princes’ and princesses, or even to say how Cinderella had been house-keeper to her step-family; I especialy loved the idea that it proved how experienced she was in cleaning, cooking and doing the housework although she was not happy- at least she got a happy ending. The problem with Cinderella, and other fairy-tales is that no matter what you love about them, the reality is that we do have Cinderellas and sleeping beauties and beauties and the beasts, in this world there are these women walking the earth and they have a story- much like from a storybook but there is no magic to it, so, we’ll find Cinderella without her fairy-godmother or Belle without her beast turning perfectly human, or pretty. Women who are princesses in the heart but face life similar to Cinderella or fairy-tale princesses WITHOUT happy endings or princes. 

Bottom-line: the fairy-tales in living reality are nightmares worse than even your or my imagination. Take for example the story of Adeline Yen Mah, my favourite childhood story and growing up I reflected on her story and realized that even though it seemed very much like she was the Chinese Cinderella- yes she had a happy-ending- but for some women, being Cinderella at the very beginning starts at a very older age for them…Perhaps in their twenties or thirties.

Let us be more Muslim now, and think from an Islamic angle. Fairy-tales?! Out of the question!! Islam would never have you even believe in magic because in reality, magic have bad side-effects, have a one-side affect much like voodoo has unrealistic, harmful evil and disasters to it. I want to change our point-of-view regarding fairy-tales, brothers and sisters! (mostly sisters!) fairy-tales are fake! It did me a great deal of confusion when I was a lil kid and dreamed real big. Having big dreams is okay, but they must be realistic and likely- something achievable that you feel you can work and succeed with.

There are no fairy-tales in Islam, as much as I’d like to enjoy and live in a make-belief world or read, listen to make-belief stories- they are all unrealistic and have one point in every story: love. That no matter what in life, love is life and if you do not have love or if you are unloved- you have no life. In truth the heroes that saved the princesses of the tales, are men, or “princes” and the stories focus more on the princesses than the princes so the child does not grasp what the prince has gone through or what his life-history is. Thus we come to terms with the idea that no matter what the man is who rescues you- he is your love and life. In islam, love is not the man and single Muslimahs must not feel like they have no life unless marriage comes their way, if you feel unloved or feel you need some love- if you have nobody then who do you have? You have Allah, god, the one God who created you because He wanted you to be made and to be here. He wanted that, so He made it BE and it is.

My views on fairy-tales have come to the crunch that, if you want to live a fairy-tale in this dunyaa- in this materialstic world- it all comes at a price, no jannah in the hereafter. Sin is found in this world when you pursue a fairy-tale life or when you dream in that realm. If you find pleasure, happiness or love through sin or through other ways: you will never be happy. Can money buy happiness? No. Can being in a big castle, or living in such an expensive place make you happy? Short-term, yes but not long-term.

But….The truth is, if your answer would be: but women need to believe in something and dream, they need to have something to look forward to or be a part of.

My answer to that is if you look at true stories, that have true happiness in them- similar to the happiness found in the storybooks of fairies or fairy-tale princesses (like how Cinderella married into the Royal Family and became wife to a prince and queen to the kingdom…)- look to the golden era of RasulAllah, and build your dreams based on his time and his wives’ true stories. The beauty of Aisha (RA), to be so knowledgable and how about Khadeeja (RA)? These are true queens of Islam who lived a happy life and died a death happier than to live in this life, even happier- because as we all know how Khadeeja (RA) was promised a pearl-house in Paradise! Such stories, true and happy ones, these are examples we should look to and realize that what they got IS attainable for us too. If you want a castle, or A Happily Ever After- build your bond with Allah, make Him your friend and try to follow the example of the wives of the prophets, their patience, their chastity and dignity, their hope and fear of Allah and their beauty. They had beauty more beautiful in the heart as was of their looks too. Maasha’Allah.

So do you believe in fairies? No, the closest to believing in flying beings to me are fire-flies but there is no living proof or evidence of fairies existing in this world, reality. But I do believe in Paradise and believe that for those who work hard in this world- there are pearl-houses for everyone and castles and kingdoms for everyone in Paradise.

We pray Allah helps us worship Him in the best way, love Him in the best way and attain Jannah ameen.

Ramadan Thoughts

Well… I’ve decided to type out what I think or concerning how I feel, indeed. 

I’d expected this Ramadan to be quite spiritual and I would have expected to have that sort of “united, family” feel to it. I experienced that before but this year it feels all the world isn’t fasting except me. Strange? Yes! Quite. What to do? I guess it works better if you tighten the loose ends of your bond, relationship with Allah. Praying five times a day is the warrior, the height of dedication! But doing more acts of righeousness and good deeds will help- after all the feel of Ramadan should not essentially be found in the brotherhood or sisterhood of this ummah, of Muslims being together (especially for the taraweeh prayer, which I’ve not gone to due to it being way past my bed-time…) but Ramadan could also be felt with the recitation of the Quraan and when you read it as if it is being revealed all over again.

I believe that since Ramadan is the month of mercy, thinking about the poor people who also go hungry just as you do, I understand very much how they feel because during my first few days in this month it was quite difficult fasting without my stomach churning away…Like there’s a little monster inside me! lol! Astaghfirallah, but I just think it quite fascinating to hear how loud your stomach could complain and grumble away… But anyway after the first few days, it came to a point where I hardly recognized I was fasting and when you break your fast- you really, really appreciate the food and drink and the ability to even swallow and digest. Subhaan’Allah, the gift of fasting and to do it while obtaining reward from Allah since it is a command and an obligation to do so… It is just amazing! When I also could no longer fast for a while, I knew when to eat and when to not eat like I’ve been well-disciplined naturally to eat when I’m hungry or starving and then to not* eat after I’ve satisfied the hunger or fulfilled that need. ..

The funny thing about it all is how some people fast in Ramadan just for fitness or health reasons, like intending to lose weight… When in reality Ramadan is all about the Quraan and fasting- not about banquetting and feasting. Although I must admit that for whatever food you have to break fast with during Ramadan, to you it turns into something  like a great big feast. Maasha’Allah. 😉

Ramadan Mubarak to all.